It can be so appreciated when you make space for those facing infertility within child centered rituals, holidays and events. Be mindful though that not everyone wants to be recognized and that’s ok.
1. When offering an individual or couple the opportunity to participate in a ritual that is thought to help one have children, it is important to know who you are asking before doing so:
- Some people appreciate such offers and run at the opportunity.
- Some people feel very hurt by such an offer and would prefer it not be offered to them.
If you are unsure or do not know the person well, try to consult with a family member or close friend who would know so as to avoid unintentionally offending or hurting anyone.
2. It is a beautiful custom to use child centered holidays as an opportunity to pray for those who have not yet been blessed with children or who are struggling to expand their families.
3. A Brit Milah and Simchat Bat are wonderful opportunities to recite the Fertility Prayer, to keep in mind those facing fertility struggles during these celebrations.
4. If possible at your event or synagogue, consider moving stroller hubs away from the front entrance to the back, so that people can enter without crossing through an emotional minefield.