When I was in my early twenties, and had just gotten engaged, the mother of one of my close friends didn’t come to our engagement party. I heard later that it was because it was too difficult to experience while having a few older unmarried daughters. At the time I didn’t understand. Unfortunately, now I […]
Infertility
Chanukah: A Prayer For Miracles
I remember the aftermath of my first miscarriage. Many times people don’t even realize they have had a miscarriage when it happens so early in the game, but since I was going through fertility treatments, in this case an IUI, I knew that I had conceived, I knew that it had implanted and the cells […]
Don’t Forget Me
A reflection on the emotions related to infertility and friendship: During the past few months I have been asked by some of my friends to describe what it is they could do to be a supportive friend. Although I cannot speak for everyone navigating infertility, I decided to share some of my thoughts. Everything has been […]
If You Ask How I’m Doing
You know that awkward moment of silence when someone asks “How are you?” and you know that, to answer truthfully would go deep into a conversation neither of you wants to enter, so you take a deep breath before you muster up a quick “fine” and try to change the subject? That awkward pause is […]
My Silent Struggle
My husband and I got married very young, and we decided to push off having kids because we were both in school. As the years went by, we watched our friends have one child after another and we decided that we were ready. In my mind, once I had made the decision to start the […]
Don’t Judge a Book By Its Facebook Profile
Facebook is a funny thing. You see the best in people: their photos, status updates of awards or vacations. Rarely does someone talk about struggles, depression or suffering a loss (unless, G-d forbid, they have lost a parent and want people to know funeral or shiva information.) Almost a year ago, I did the most […]
