In this conversation, Kenzi Locks of Yesh Tikva speaks with Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard, Director of Policy and Advocacy at Ethical Family Building, about what individuals and couples should understand when considering adoption after infertility. Together, they explore the emotional realities that often accompany this transition, including infertility grief, loss, longing, and the importance of processing those experiences before moving forward with adoption.

The discussion highlights how grief can influence decision-making and why prospective adoptive parents benefit from approaching adoption with both emotional awareness and practical knowledge. Kelsey shares common mistakes she has seen families make when acting from a place of desperation, as well as the importance of slowing down, asking questions, and understanding the systems involved in private adoption.

The conversation also examines key ethical considerations, including independent legal representation for expectant mothers, open adoption agreements, post-adoption counseling and support, reasonable adoption fees, and the role of nonprofit adoption agencies. Listeners will gain insight into how ethical practices affect not only adoptive parents, but also birth parents and adoptees.

This resource may be especially meaningful for those searching for answers to questions such as: “Should we pursue adoption after infertility?” “How do I know if an adoption agency is ethical?” “I am grieving infertility and considering adoption.” “How can I make informed adoption decisions?” It may also help professionals, clergy, and family members seeking a deeper understanding of ethical family-building pathways.

Adoption is not a cure for grief. It is its own journey, one that deserves thoughtful preparation, honesty, and care for everyone involved.